1) How do we begin, as a couple?

Take the Essential Relational Skills Weekend Boot Camp together. They are designed to teach skills that few of us ever learned from our families.It is an educational weekend and you’ll emerge from them on the same page as your partner in terms of understanding what needs to be done, individually and as a couple. Some people find that it is all that they need for help.

3) What about ongoing support?

Ongoing support or “tune-ups: are offered to help couples and individuals apply the work to the challenges of everyday life. Some people know, going into the Boot Camp, that they will need this and choose to purchase a package of follow-up support sessions at the time of registration. Choices are below.

4) What if my partner doesn’t want to do/says they are too private for a group experience?

Then come to the Boot Camp yourself, as an individual. Once you tell your partner you are intending to do that they might just grudgingly come along to support you. Over the course of the Boot Camps I’ve seen such reluctant participants become enthusiastic participants, much to everyone’s surprise.

5) Me/my partner are public figures/well-enough known to make it awkward in terms of confidentiality.

Communications to Boot Camp participants are always blind cc’d emailed to you, so that no one knows your last name unless you choose to share it with them yourself. It’s very common that participants in the Boot Camp leave don’t know the last names of others or even what they do in the world outside of the room.

6) Do you offer couples therapy alone, without Boot Camp first?

There are good reasons for doing the Boot Camp first. It actually saves you hours of slow-motion learning in sessions and gives you an even starting point. I do work with couples, or individuals, who have signed up for a Boot Camp weeks or months in advance, knowing that their attendance will supplement our work once they attend.

Crisis work sometimes demands that couples sessions begin before Boot Camp attendance happens.

7) What about  private “intensives”?

Intensive work (4-6 hour long sessions, interrupted by a few breaks and done one or two days in a row) can feel amazing at the time (it’s an experience) and then sort of foggy afterwards (as in “wait; how do we apply this to everyday life with each other?”) Sometimes this is the only work a couple can do, they say, but given the choice between an intensive and sustained work over time, separated by 2 week intervals, I’d vote for the sustained work every time.

8) Do you work with individuals or just couples?

I do work with individuals who are struggling with issues around relationships, marriages, partnerships and children. The focus, however, is always on relational work.

9) Are fees reimbursable by my insurance company?

If you live in NY, NJ, PA or MA they may be, and are likely to be. Those are the states I am licensed to provide reimbursable psychotherapy services to and if your coverage includes reimbursement for out-of-network providers, you are likely to receive money back from them after paying me first. People who live in states other than those – or who are outside of the United States – work under an educational workshop agreement with me. These educational services aren’t reimbursable through insurance where you live, then.

10) What are your fees and how do we pay you?

I accept payments via Venmo, PayPal, paper check, or credit cards with a 3.25% surcharge for processing fee.